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What Does Your Consumer Really Want…Better Sex or the Meaning of Life?

mad_scientist_holding_brain_500_clr_265If we really want to use social media for business effectively and receive the most benefit, we really do need to understand the psychology of the people who use it.  A little term I call “Social Mediology”.

Recently a related piece of research on the unconscious motivations of consumers from the area of neuroscience conducted by Young & Rubicam entitled Secrets & Lies” has largely be ignored by most social media marketers, strategists, and gurus.  

The study was conducted with people from Brazil, China and the US and provides us with some valuable insights into consumer behavior and applications in your social media use.  

What did they find?

Social Media Psychology & Business: Focus on the User…Not the platform!

Is there a psychology to social media? Yes. If one truly wants to be successful using social media you should know that it is less about marketing and more about the psychology of those who use it most.

The mistake most businesses and marketers make is that they fail to realize the motivations of the people using social media. Users are not interested in what you have to sell, they are interested in what they have to say. If you want to make the most out of social media for you in your business, it is not about using it as a billboard, promotion, or advertising medium, it is about having conversations with the poster.

The infographic below from PsychologyDegree.net is just another example of how we need to further understand human behavior and psychology when trying to gain business and less about archaic methods of marketing.

How great would it be for a business to have real conversations with real people talking about the things people are interested in versus trying to tell us how great their business is, or why we need their product or service?  People are far more likely to respond and evangelize more about a business that actually talks to them versus talks at them. There are many interesting findings in this graphic, what applications do see for you and your business?

To Your Success,

Jay, Internet Doctor

Psychology of Social Networking

Pay to Post…The Rules Have Changed For Facebook Business Pages


Well it’s officially over.  The days of that FREE Facebook business page that you created is no longer FREE. Well, let’s put it this way it’s no longer free if you want everyone to see your posts.  Have you noticed recently you are not getting the responses to your posts that you used to?  There is a reason for it. Facebook in their great wisdom has decided that if you have a page with over 400 “Likes” and you post something interesting, or you want your “Likers” to see, only about 15% of those people will see it on their Newsfeed.  If you want everyone to see it, you will have to pay for it.  The costs start at around $5 per post, and then go up depending on how long you run it, who you target, and the number of people, etc.  The Bottomline…you are going to pay if you want your post to be seen.

What does this mean for you and your business page?

Drip Campaigns…Good Business or Just Drippy?

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Diagnosis: Your email drip campaigns are not effective.

Symptoms: The recipients of your drip email campaigns delete them, or – worse – they ask to be removed from the campaign, causing you a loss of direct contact with your potential clients. You fear you may be losing your potential clients to the competition.


The Good, the Bad, the Ugly

When drip campaigns first came out, I, like everyone else, could see their potential value. If you provide good information, what could be the harm? As a matter of fact, I endorsed the idea.

But now, my initial excitement has dulled a bit, and I am not so sure. “Why is that?” you ask eagerly. Well, I’ll tell you.

One reason is that drip campaigns take up space. I have enough email as it is, and this is just one more thing to clutter up my In Box. So when I see these campaign emails come across my platform, I cannot hit the delete key fast enough.

Second, the information that I receive is, for the most part, uninspired, obvious, and generally less than useful.

Finally – and, I think, most important – I started to feel depersonalized. I was just another address on some auto-generated list. Simply put, drip campaigns went from something good, to something bad, and now I am real ugly about it.

Whose fault is it?

I admit that this is partially my fault. I signed up for these automated emails. I knew they were coming. But after a while I found myself deleting them without reading them, and, inevitably, I asked to be taken off mailing lists.

However, I must also blame the purveyor of these email drips. I had an expectation that the information they were sending me would actually make a difference in my business life. Unfortunately, I was being fed unoriginal ideas that provided me with no innovative insights that I could apply to my life or to my business.

The Problem with Technology

Technology is a great thing. I love it. I love the gadgets, the information, all of it. However, as we more and more frequently use technology as a means of communication, we begin to dehumanize people. One of the reasons we use email is because it allows us to avoid talking to others. Let’s face it: If I can send an email to you without you responding right away, I don’t have to immediately engage with you, which saves me time. It’s easy. It’s convenient.

However, while convenient, communicating by email is not personal. What we have created with a drip campaign is a program that sends a previously-written program to a person on the assumption that that recipient has the same agenda, the same type of mental programming. When it comes to staying in touch with your existing customers or potential clients, they don’t want some cute little email telling them you still haven’t forgotten about them. They want to feel important to you. They want to know that they are different than any other potential customer you have. That their needs are unique, and that they are unique.

The Narcissist in All of Us

I know that you have read or heard marketing gurus drill over and over that you need to understand your target market. However, I will take this one step further: you need to understand your target market without losing sight of the individual.

Humans are social beings. That is a fact. We like being with other people. We are designed to not be alone, and actually function better when we are supported by others. If you are one of those people who insist that you are better off alone, I will tell you to your face that you are in denial and you need psychological help. Please find a qualified therapist.

But despite the fact that we are social beings, we are also, for the most part, narcissistic. Each person believes he or she is special. We like it when someone recognizes us amongst others for our individuality. While on one level we don’t want to be embarrassed, we do want to others to notice that we are different.

The narcissist in each of us often drives us to success. Narcissism compels us to find ways for others to seek us out for recognition. The narcissist in each of us doesn’t want to be “just another one of the group”. We are innately intolerant of being lumped into the crowd, of being just like everyone else. We are better than that. We deserve better than that. The narcissist wants to be the best person in the group. Don’t make us feel we are just one of many cattle that you herd to the eating trough.

How did this happen?

Do you want the honest answer or do you want the politically correct answer? If you have read any of my writings in the past you know what you are going to get: honesty. So here it is.

Technology has made us lazy professionals. L-A-Z-Y. Think about it. When we didn’t have all this technology at our fingertips, our business was conducted face to face. We took time out of our lives to make sure that each customer felt that he or she was the focus of our intention and the most important person in the room. Enter technology. We hide behind our monitors. We screen our email, talk to who we want, when we want. At the same time, we still want to communicate with others.

True, the consumer has a narcissistic desire to be in control, but they don’t want to be alone. Technology theoretically gives us the ability to stay in touch with people without bothering them. The problem is that now we have crossed a line. It is much easier for us to set up an automated program that sends information to lots of people at once rather than taking the time to send a personalized email, or letter by mail, or to make a phone call. We just send out some pitiful piece of tripe that the originator has probably never fully read himself. By sending out mass emails, you are basically telling your customers “I am not going to take the time to communicate to all of you, so here is the same piece of information I send everyone else. P.S. I care about you!” Do you really expect anyone to believe that? Do you really think that we – as your customers – believe that you care about us? Hell, no! Furthermore, you can take your pre-written, simultaneously sent, skanky email, and shove it up your processor! “Please Remove.” Delete email. The only thing you have accomplished is to tell your clients that they are not important enough to get your personal attention, and that you are too lazy to pick up the phone and let them know you care.

The Prescriptions

Be part of the solution, not part of the problem: Make sure your current and potential clients have their own places at the head of the table. Find out what your clients really want, and give it to them. This may mean eliminating your email drip campaigns altogether, or you may have to come up with a customized, more personalized solution.

Do not buy an auto drip campaign: If you feel you must have an email drip campaign, then please write it yourself. Don’t outsource the writing of your campaign. If you didn’t write it, it won’t reflect your voice, and more than likely it won’t get you results.

Be more personal and less technological: We are talking about people here. We are not talking about communicating with a machine. Find out what’s important to your customers. Find out what’s going on with them. Find out what makes them tick. Then enter into their world. You will find that you have a returning customer for life. What’s more, you may even make another friend.

People are emotional, so emote: I think the reason women are the best small business owners and dominate the real estate world is because they don’t mind emoting with their clients. They don’t mind listening to them. They want to understand, they better demonstrate that they want to help, and ultimately women are better at convincing clients that they really care. Now, I know there are exceptions. I just wish there were more men who demonstrated these skills.

Take the time: There is no such thing as “making time”. You have to take the time. If these people are really important to you, than “take” the time to make them feel important.

To the Health of your Business!


Dr. Jay

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The Target Marketing Myth

The hottest marketing term being thrown around today is “target marketing”. People are making tons of money on this term. It is so ill defined, that no one can tell you exactly what it is. How big or how small it is. What the defining parameters are, how to measure it, or how to actually observe it. As business owners please don’t fall into the trap of marketing professionals who tell you, “You are not targeting your market”. Hell they can’t even operationally define it. What’s more, let them try to measure it. Other than that, just ignore me, and spend your money any way you want without measurable results.

What is Target Marketing?

There are many definitions, and I don’t have enough room to put them down here.  Technically speaking, target marketing has been closely aligned with terms “niche” marketing, and “market segmentation”. Which are very nice sounding terms however, they lack good scientific vigor with regard to a definition. Honestly, if you jump on the web for a definition for target marketing you will find that the term is so grossly defined that you could drive a battle ship through the holes in the definition.

How is it measured?

It’s impossible, because there is not an operational definition for it. Good luck with spending those marketing dollars.

Can a Target Market be too small?

Well supposedly it can be. However, it really is based more in how much money you are making. If you are only selling to 10 people but they are paying you a million dollars a year, and you are happy with that, then I guess it’s not too small. There are companies that make fabulous money selling personalized private jets to very few people.

Can a Target Market be too large?

Well supposedly it can be. Ha! Don’t you love it, it’s the same answer as above. The definitions of “target marketing” do not define the parameters. However, I read an article where a company target marketed an entire country. Although think about toilet paper companies? Who is their target market? Better yet who is NOT the target market? If I find out who those people are, I will not be shaking hands with them. I guess it’s anybody that doesn’t produce human internal waste. Hmmm. I guess if they don’t produce human waste, I suppose they are dead. So I guess toilet paper companies don’t target dead people.

Is there any value to target marketing?

Well let me save you several hundred dollars on this one. Here are some things you already know but will be told to you in different way.

  1. Only try to sell your goods or services to people who can afford them.
  2. Only try to sell goods or services you actually have an expertise at selling.
  3. Only sell your goods or services in geographical area you actually serve.
  4. Only try to sell your goods or services to people who actually want or need them.

Are you target marketing on the web?

Well I have a question is your web marketing working? If you respond yes to this question, by definition you are evidently “target marketing”. If you say no, then evidently you are not. Can you see how much B.S. this is? I discussed this with my good friend and colleague Brad Carroll, author and CEO of Dakno Marketing, Inc. We batted target marketing around on IM for a good 30 minutes, when I brought up the definition of “target marketing” of as “if your marketing is working you are target marketing, if it isn’t your not target marketing”. He gave me a “smiley”  and simply said, “yeah”.

What came first the Success or the Target Marketing?

Talk to the Chicken or the Egg.

What is the answer?

First of all, I don’t claim to have all the answers. I do know that I have been quite successful with clients businesses on the web, and I don’t spend a whole lot of time worrying about target marketing. Although Brad says I am, I just don’t know it. I am not sure he knows for sure, because we can’t even define the darn thing clear enough to know if you are doing it or not. However, I do know a few things that I have found to be very effective through trial and error.

  1. Don’t be something online that you are not in person.
  2. Don’t work with people that you don’t like working with and make sure there is not something on your website that is attracting them.
  3. Figure out who you want to work with, understand them as completely as you can psychologically and focus your content to that group.
  4. Don’t be afraid to try something way outside of the box.
  5. Know how people behave on the web (My next post will focus on this topic)

If you can do these 5 things don’t worry about nebulous terms like “target marketing”.

Ciao for now.

Dr. Jay

So You Want More Leads…Is that what you call them?

My friend and colleague Brad Carroll, CEO of Dakno an Internet Marketing Group, www.dakno.com turned me on to something that was just so phenomenal that I had to write about it immediately.

So often we talk about “leads”. I have even made the mistake at times of using this term. First, I want to apologize for the usage of this term. From here on out, I will make a conscious effort to forsake this term, because these are people looking for information. When I reduce them to a lead, I have done nothing more than make them a number, or put them into a category.

The truth is these are people who want some information, maybe it is not specific to what you were hoping for, but have you ever thought that these people are asking for information from you because they find you trustworthy, you have relevant information on your website, or possibly they may have nowhere else to turn.

Even if this is not the type of individual you were hoping to speak to, the fact that they contacted you, puts the ball in your court, and you have a responsibility to contact them, even if it is with a recommendation to someone else. To ignore these people is the worst thing you could do for your future business. These are people, these are people with questions, these are people with needs and wants, and they are looking for someone to help them. Are you that person? Watch this video compliments of www.1000wattblog.com I hope you will agree with me…it is time to abandon this term.

I am not a lead

Stay Successful My Friends!

Dr. Jay

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